Disconnection and polarization are not our natural way and are not what any human truly wants. We would not have survived without an underlying drive towards connection and collaboration. We yearn for it. It is our inherent nature. We have been trained not to notice the abundance of shining examples all around and within but they are there.

Have you noticed it - the steady stream of apologies that flow from the mouths of Women and Girls? If it hasn’t yet caught your attention, stop and listen, for a day, an hour, a few moments and it will. These apologies may appear to flow with ease, but I assure you that is not the case. It took generations and generations of painful conditioning to install this pattern of internalized self-deprecation and self-erasure into the bodies and psyches of our sisters, mothers and daughters.

We so often want to turn away from what scares us. That’s so understandable! We've been barraged with messages our whole lives telling us to stay “safe,” be “normal” and “rational”, and so against our natural inclination, we learn to suppress our deepest, truest ideas, yearnings and knowings. Often without even noticing we are doing so.

You don’t have to settle for heeding these notions that limit you and our world. You just don’t! These messages are loud and convincing, but they become so much less so when we tune into and listen to ourselves and each other.

My heart is breaking into a million pieces.

And… as I crack open, allowing the waves of emotion to flow, I feel all those pieces of my heart becoming part of a greater whole of connection - beyond what I have yet known.

Grief we feel, wherever its origins, is not something to run from, but to walk towards with open hearts, bodies and minds - with each other. It is the path to beautiful, so important, healing transformation. For us all and for you personally!

With every loss, with every change, when we allow ourselves to feel and move through them, important space opens for something new. It is often, in fact, the only way what we are most needing can show up. Something that will make our life fuller, more aligned, more joyful and more whole.

Our limited perspective about work profoundly hinders our ability to think well about how we spend our time, how we earn and relate to money. What have you decided is unacceptable, unallowable and impossible? What are you not allowing yourself to express?

Sometimes we allow ourselves to believe that we are OK with things that, if we were honest with ourselves, we really aren’t.

You know what I mean, don’t you?

Sometimes we allow ourselves to believe that we don’t need or want something that, if we listened to our heart and souls’ desire, we very much do?

You know what I am speaking of, don’t you?

Sometimes we dismiss our intuition, allowing ourselves to believe it is not to be trusted.

You feel this in your own body too, don’t you?

Magical thinking is imagining what does not yet exist. Imagining possibility beyond what we have yet envisioned. Bringing those possibilities to life. What would you allow yourself to vision and try and do if you leaned into magical thinking? If you dared to believe in possibility. Possibility for your own life. What inside you might come out and be? What if your wildest dreams, hopes and visions are actually your most attuned knowings of what is possible?

There is a wise, brave and powerful human inside all of us (yes, you!) who has a very different vision. That precious human (you!) knows her vision is possible. It’s time we let our wiser selves lead our way!

What do you long for? What is inside you that you have not not yet allowed to express. Even to yourself. Ask and listen. Trust yourself. Consider possibility. Beyond your current imaginings . Beyond what you have been told is possible. It will heal our world when we all do.

Receiving is an invaluable gift to give. And we are collectively very bad at it. Our blocked channels of receiving, and thus of giving, are a problem with great impact on us individually and as a whole. The good news is that we get to change course! If we are to repair our world, it is essential that we do.

We are given the message in so many ways, from so many institutions, that we need answers from outside of ourselves. We don’t! All the knowing we need is right there inside of us. Alive and whole and eagerly waiting for us to notice, honor and heed.

What are you not allowing yourself to say, do, undo or imagine?
What is holding you back?

What if you knew you make a difference in the world - just as you are - as is - right now? Most of us don’t. It’s a problem. A problem with far reaching impact. Our unknowing keeps us separate. It disconnects us from others, from ourselves, from our needs, from our potential to vision and act.

The belief underlying this pattern is that we are separate, exempt, not part of the world we are working so hard to transform. We believe that taking care of ourselves interferes with the good of the whole. It’s understandable we have this belief. But it is wrong. How can we create better conditions for the world if we exclude ourselves? We can’t.

Most of us have lost touch with our innate ability to listen to ourselves. We have collectively disconnected from our intuition, suppressing our deepest and truest thoughts, feelings, hopes and knowings.

What would women do
If we stopped colluding with the silencing of ourselves…